Tuesday, March 08, 2011

Celebration of life

Today was my father's cremation. So much to sort beforehand. Up until this morning I was listening to music for this afternoon. All went well and I was able to say whatever I was going to say.
It is all so final.
When my husband died, I found out that you could go all the way to the oven at the crematorium. This was such a help for me to be able to do that. So, with my father I wanted to do the same. It was a different crematorium, so all was different but we were able to go to the oven again.
If you ever go to a cremation, I highly recommend you try and go as far as the oven. It is only for the close family but it really brings things to an end.
I have tried to make it a celebration of life rather than doom and gloom.
We finished with this music.
 It was his own wish to have this music played. He loved that film.
So many people said afterwards that this music made all the difference to it all.
Tomorrow I have some legal things to sort out, but afterwards I can start to sort out my Magic Dobby loom with the new interface. Watch this space.......


  1. I am sorry for your lose. I wish I had known about being able to go to the oven. My daughter died (car accident) almost 3 years ago and I had her cremated. What helped me was making pendants for myself (and any others that felt the need) with wire wrapped glass vials with some of her ashes. I still wear her near my heart. Some of her friends took some of the ashes and scattered her in places that were special.

  2. Ik heb de muziek beluisted, je vader moet wel een heel bijzonder mens geweest zijn.

  3. Music is so powerful and personal. We ended my brother's funeral with the Dr Who theme. It was the best send-off! We all laughed and cried at the same time. I am glad you were able to celebrate life.

  4. My condolences on the loss of your father.

  5. What a brilliant send-off. We held a party after Mother died and I bought pots of African violets. I had lots of pictures printed which I put into holders and stuck into the violet pots. She always had African violets, since my earliest memories. It was a celebration of her wonderful life. I wish I had thought of music because she was a pianist. I think your celebration was awesome.

  6. Oh Margreet, what sad news. I know you will miss him terribly.